L\u00edfi\u00f0 yfir-anal\u00edsera\u00f0<\/strong> \u00c9g get reyndar vel skili\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 barnseignir eru fj\u00e1rhagslega erfi\u00f0ar (gott sem vonlausar) s\u00e9rstaklega ef b\u00e1\u00f0ir einstaklingar eru nemar, en n\u00fa er svo komi\u00f0 a\u00f0 nokkrar af vinkonunum eru komnar me\u00f0 maka me\u00f0 “alv\u00f6ru vinnu” (e\u00f0a sj\u00e1lfar \u00ed alv\u00f6ru vinnu) og \u00fe\u00e1 hugsar ma\u00f0ur “eftir hverju eru \u00fe\u00e6r a\u00f0 bi\u00f0a?”. \u00dea\u00f0 vantar ekki a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 er miki\u00f0 tala\u00f0 um barnseignir, en \u00fea\u00f0 vir\u00f0ist a\u00f0allega vera \u00ed t\u00f3ninum “er ekki agalega erfitt a\u00f0 eiga b\u00f6rn?” Bara \u00ed g\u00e6r sn\u00e9rist umr\u00e6\u00f0an um hvernig sambandi\u00f0 \u00e1 milli foreldranna breytist og hvernig \u00ed \u00f3sk\u00f6punum ma\u00f0ur eigi a\u00f0 aga \u00feau?!<\/p>\n \u00deannig a\u00f0 \u00e9g f\u00f3r a\u00f0 velta fyrir m\u00e9r af hverju \u00feetta v\u00e6ri svona erfitt. \u00c9g meina, ok, \u00fea\u00f0 er svakaleg skuldbinding a\u00f0 eignast barn, svo ma\u00f0ur tali n\u00fa ekki um b\u00f6rn, en hvar \u00ed \u00fej\u00f3\u00f0f\u00e9laginu var \u00fea\u00f0 sett inn \u00ed velmennta\u00f0ar konur me\u00f0 svakalega tekjum\u00f6guleika a\u00f0 \u00feetta v\u00e6ri bara hreinlega n\u00e6stum \u00f3vi\u00f0r\u00e1\u00f0anlegt verkefni? Er \u00fea\u00f0 bara a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r voru aldrei l\u00e1tnar passa fr\u00e6nkur og fr\u00e6ndur? E\u00f0a eru \u00feetta leyfar af \u00e1r\u00f3\u00f0rinum “ekki eignast b\u00f6rn (ung) \u00fev\u00ed \u00fe\u00e1 \u00fearftu a\u00f0 h\u00e6tta \u00ed sk\u00f3la og endar \u00e1 kassa \u00ed B\u00f3nus”? E\u00f0a er \u00feetta fullkomnunar\u00e1r\u00e1tta \u00ed einu og \u00f6llu?<\/p>\n Svo finnst m\u00e9r t\u00edmasetningar-umr\u00e6\u00f0an l\u00edka \u00e1hugaver\u00f0. Ma\u00f0ur \u00e1 ekki a\u00f0 eignast b\u00f6rn \u00ed framhaldsn\u00e1mi \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0, g\u00falp, \u00fe\u00e1 \u00fatskrifast ma\u00f0ur aldrei. \u00deegar ma\u00f0ur loksins \u00fatskrifast, \u00fe\u00e1 getur ma\u00f0ur ekki bara fari\u00f0 a\u00f0 vinna og ver\u00f0a strax \u00f3fr\u00edsk. Nei, ma\u00f0ur ver\u00f0ur n\u00fa a\u00f0 vinna \u00ed svona 2 \u00e1r og svo getur ma\u00f0ur fari\u00f0 a\u00f0 huga a\u00f0 barnseignum. \u00deetta finnst m\u00e9r allt svol\u00edti\u00f0 undarleg l\u00f3g\u00edk, en svona virkar \u00feetta h\u00e9rna.<\/p>\n \u00dea\u00f0 hl\u00fdtur reyndar a\u00f0 spila inn \u00ed a\u00f0 \u00ed Bandar\u00edkjunum b\u00fdr svo til enginn n\u00e1l\u00e6gt fj\u00f6lskyldu sinni, svo a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk hefur engan stu\u00f0ning fr\u00e1 \u00f6mmu og \u00f6fum. \u00dea\u00f0 er l\u00edklega mesta sorgin h\u00e9rna finnst m\u00e9r, \u00fea\u00f0 eru allir \u00ed svo lausu lofti einhvern veginn.<\/p>\n \u00c1 m\u00f3ti kemur a\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00cdslandi eru allar m\u00ednar vinkonur komnar me\u00f0 eitt barn, ef ekki tv\u00f6 og \u00fea\u00f0 er bara l\u00e1ti\u00f0 ganga. Allt annar m\u00f3rall \u00ed gangi einhvern veginn og svo miklu heilbrig\u00f0ari a\u00f0 m\u00ednu mati.<\/p>\n Hva\u00f0 um \u00fea\u00f0, \u00fat\u00f3p\u00edu-doktorsn\u00e1mi\u00f0 fyrir m\u00e9r er n\u00fana \u00feannig a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 n\u00e6stum gert r\u00e1\u00f0 fyrir a\u00f0 konur eignist b\u00f6rn \u00e1 me\u00f0an \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed stendur og a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 hj\u00e1lpa\u00f0 til me\u00f0 a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta \u00fea\u00f0 ganga upp. N\u00faverandi doktorsn\u00e1m er hins vegar sett \u00feannig upp a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk eigi helst a\u00f0 setja allt sitt “l\u00edf” \u00e1 frest til a\u00f0 f\u00e1 papp\u00edrssnefil me\u00f0 nafninu s\u00ednu \u00e1 og or\u00f0unum Ph.D. M\u00e9r finnst \u00fea\u00f0 vera heldur undarlegt kerfi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" F\u00f6studagur 2. mars 2007 L\u00edfi\u00f0 yfir-anal\u00edsera\u00f0A\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed er \u00e9g best veit \u00fe\u00e1 er \u00e9g eini kvenkyns doktorsneminn \u00ed allri deildinni sem \u00e1 barn. Ein vinkona m\u00edn eigna\u00f0ist son r\u00e9tt \u00e1\u00f0ur en h\u00fan \u00fatskrifa\u00f0ist, og hvarf s\u00ed\u00f0an \u00e1 braut \u00e1 pr\u00f3fessora-framabraut, og s\u00ed\u00f0an \u00fe\u00e1 hafa nokkrir af str\u00e1kunum \u00ed deildinni eignast b\u00f6rn en vinkonurnar eru barnlausarRead more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-697","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","post-container col-md-12"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/hrefna.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/697","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/hrefna.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/hrefna.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hrefna.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hrefna.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=697"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/hrefna.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/697\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/hrefna.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=697"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hrefna.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=697"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hrefna.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=697"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
A\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed er \u00e9g best veit \u00fe\u00e1 er \u00e9g eini kvenkyns doktorsneminn \u00ed allri deildinni sem \u00e1 barn. Ein vinkona m\u00edn eigna\u00f0ist son r\u00e9tt \u00e1\u00f0ur en h\u00fan \u00fatskrifa\u00f0ist, og hvarf s\u00ed\u00f0an \u00e1 braut \u00e1 pr\u00f3fessora-framabraut, og s\u00ed\u00f0an \u00fe\u00e1 hafa nokkrir af str\u00e1kunum \u00ed deildinni eignast b\u00f6rn en vinkonurnar eru barnlausar sem fyrr.<\/p>\n